In the old days, going out involved a car, yours or somebody else’s.
He feels that people date to find "their" mate according to their own principles, rules, and desires.
In doing so, he argues, people put up a façade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, and this hampers the "getting to know you" part of dating.
Harris indicated that there was a "lack of freeness between men and women in cultivating friendships".
He also used the words "standoffish" and "tightness".
The new target looks more like Rainbow Johnson (married professional in her 40s) than Haley Dunphy (single woman in her early 20s).