If I’m remembering correctly, she says they are the ones your body wants to make babies with in order to keep them around, not because they are actually good guys. Amy: But what about when you crave deep connection? And, Waylon, you do know that no one “makes” you feel guilty, that’s your stuff my friend. When we enter into a relationship, we agree to be there for someone.
When thinking back to all relationships that didn’t end well, it always started with that crazy-making chemistry. The super intense, can’t-think-of-anything-else-but-you kind. So if I’m working, and I’m not able to go to their “thing” that they want me to be at, for them, I feel bad.
At around 17 I got deeply involved in meditation and study and am pretty grateful to that anchor of sanity, the humor it gives me about my ridiculous self, and a great way to deal with stress and difficult emotions, challenges in my life. Those are my primary practices, however, as my path has evolved I’m finding more and more that I drop in during things that are not the typical “spiritual” pursuits as we might think of them. I went from a crazy relationship to swearing off dating for over six months, in order to focus on what I was building. Not my relationships, my body, or my team and company. I saw the numbers I wrote for October of 2015 and just had to smile at how off my expectations were compared to what is real today. And nothing wrong with the man doing acroyoga at Wanderlust, for sure.
Amy: I have historically always gone for the bad boy. It’s an addiction that I finally put an end to recently. For me, in my dating life, I love dating as opposed to long relationships because it has space for work and loneliness built in. And that’s something conscious women and men alike are all looking for.
There is a relationship expert out there who puts it beautifully: If you have a crazy strong chemistry with a man, run the other way. Both of which are preferable to being made to feel guilty for not being interested in or available for most barbecues, movies, etc.
Waylon: I don’t mind if they work a ton or not, but just that they don’t pressure me not to work. When you’re in a relationship do you find that you can stick to your practice? I grew up Buddhist, though Buddhism is the kind of thing you need to actually to do, so doesn’t really matter if you’re born in it or not. Climbing, hiking, bicycling as commuting, real food, conscious consumerism, community—these things in addition to yoga, and primarily meditation, keep me sane. What are your daily practices that help you be sane, grounded, open, and of service to others? After spending time practicing in India and with a handful of teachers here in the U.
I honestly want to change the world and am doing my best, and the guilt of not being there for someone I care about is painful, so I’d rather just be single. At around 17 I’d practiced a ton of meditation and programs and retreats and months of silent meditation and such, but hadn’t made a deeply personal relationship with meditation, which is really all Buddhism is on some level. I’ve practiced yoga somewhat intensely in the past, now do it for maintenance. Amy: Oh man that’s a whole other conversation, I feel you on the U. S., it’s a very different experience than the typical practice we have access to on a daily basis at studios. Waylon: How do you keep your stress and relationship in balance while starting up a big mindful business? You know that statement that you’re the sum of the six people you hang out with most?
Or just generally be able to “get it” when it comes to hustle and hard work? That’s fundamental to my life and being able to function drama-free and intelligently. I be—and should be, perhaps: I wrote about that in “the Future of Yoga” and have talked about it or asked about it extensively with many great teachers on our Walk the Talk Show series, which is honored now to feature you!