It doesn’t mean you have “daddy issues” or whatever; that phrase doesn’t actually mean anything, because it can be applied (or, preferably, not) to every person on the planet.
Being attracted to someone older just means you are a human person who sometimes thinks other human people are sexy!
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
I mean, I know: some cute college guy who spells his texts properly and actually seems to wash his face (be still my beating heart) can be pretty tough crush competition for the bros in your 10th grade math class.
And if there’s one thing of which I’m certain about you Rookies, it’s this: to borrow a compliment frequently expressed to you by your grandpa/kindly next-door neighbor/best friend’s mom, YOU ARE VERY MATURE FOR YOUR AGE.
I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.
None of that stuff happened to me, but I still wince when I remember how I idealized the thought of someone being single-mindedly obsessed with me the way the novel’s narrator is with Lolita.
I have personally found myself wanting a man to care of me to feel a sense of security, which I lacked from my own dad growing up.